Dear Kate,
I met the man of my dreams last summer. We had relationship charts run and everything looked absolutely perfect for us. We spent much of the summer together having a glorious time, before it all fell apart without warning. He waltzed off into the sunset and never looked back.
I know there isn’t anyone else, so what happened? Why did the charts show that we were perfect for each other if it wasn’t meant to be?
Left Behind
Dear Left Behind,
You’re right. Your charts do show that you two are perfect for each other. Your strengths support his weaknesses and vice versa. You are both in similar fields of work, and if you chose to work together, you’d be unstoppable. You’re supremely compatible on a personal level as well. None of that has changed.
What went “wrong?”
Free will.
I’ve talked a lot about how the stars don’t determine your fate. Nothing in the alignments of your planets directs what will be. The best they can show is what might be.
You have a packed seventh house (partnership, marriage, commitment) ruled by Neptune (dreams and fantasy). He has his Sun (self-image) in a strong tenth house (career, ambition, social success), plus he has that same wishful-thinking Neptune in his seventh house.
Basically, he imagined (Neptune) that he would be extremely happy with you forever (seventh house = partners), but somewhere along the way his ego’s (Sun) drive for monetary success (tenth house) took the wheel. Even though his heart (Moon) longs for love and family, it’s opposed by that work drive. He decided that work is more important to him than home or partnership.
I think that seething under his surface there is a lot of fear of commitment in addition to the outward and visible drive to succeed. Until he faces the root of that fear and is willing to address it, he won’t be willing to commit to anyone.
I’m very sorry for your disappointment and pain.
The best advice I can offer you is to stay open to possibility. Your fourth and seventh houses (family and partnership) are very strong, and the right partner with whom to make a home is out there for you.
Much love, and please let me know how you are doing.